And for people who have no interest in serious dating and just want to find people to hook up with?Online is a much better way to accomplish that too.But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?
I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.
The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
As for the current online dating options—they strike me as a good first crack at this by humanity, but the kind of thing we’ll significantly improve on to the point where the way it was done in 2014 will seem highly outdated in not too many years.
Now that the stigma has diminished, you know this industry is going to race ahead because there’s so much money to be made by whoever can be innovative.
For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.
The alternative that often happens is meeting someone through friends, which can work, but it’s limiting yourself to single people your closest friends and family happen to know.
Before you get angry and defensive, let me just clarify that I’m not saying you can’t meet someone online. We had mutual friends and followed each other on Instagram (it was not nearly as popular as it is now, I didn’t even have my blog then! When we had to date long distance, most of our communication was on the phone and via texting.
So hey, I’m not saying meeting someone online or using technology when dating long distance can’t work out.
There seems to be a lot of mixed signals, confusion, heartbreak, and many good things ending with ambiguity and silence instead of with closure and honesty.
There’s a growing fear of commitment as millennials swipe left and right through the virtual catalog of possible mates the internet offers.
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