I just wish inter-tribal dating/mingling wasn't an issue, but it seems to be for some people.I'm a twink who loves bears..with it." —Danny, 25 "Let's be real.When you are a gay man in your twenties, dating can be an all-around horrible experience.
Though I respect that, I still want to find someone in a similar place of coming out.
It can feel like babysitting otherwise." —Eddie, 28 "The biggest struggle that I have while I'm dating is when a guy thinks that I'm ~too young~ to date.
You can be having a great conversation with a guy online, then, at the slightest suspicion that you are a total queen, you are ghosted. We just need to learn that some guys really are into Britney Spears while others really do love monster trucks, but that doesn't define what they can bring to dating or a relationship." —Jeremy, 22 "The biggest struggle of dating is the internal battle one undergoes when deciding if he wants an open, polyamorous, or monogamous relationship.
I've been in all three relationships and neither was perfect, but all provided wonderful learning and growth opportunities.
Am I saying no to all the other guys who might be the one I want to spend my life with?
I feel like I only want to date someone who I am 100% convinced I'll be with forever." —Craig, 21 "Between Grindr and talking to people on all the others, it takes up a few hours a day. When you are constantly texting multiple people and don't respond to one, you get the infamous question mark text. It's just a lot." —Taylor, 22 "Because of dating apps, you can find out where a guy works, what kind of company he keeps, and all the places he's lived before even meeting him.
But I've learned that those romantic conventions don't work when you are trying to date a queer person.
The dynamic of two men being together IS DIFFERENT.
When I step into a predominately heterosexual establishment, I feel like I have to be on guard and really careful with the people I choose to flirt with. HIV impacts everyone, no matter your sexuality, but it's still a hot button issue in the gay community, especially in dating.